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Temple Beth Sholom

Smithtown, NY

 

Annual Memorial Book

2020 - 2021 

 

    Following the practice observed by most Conservative congregations, our Temple Beth Sholom leadership has approved the preparation in printed form, of the enclosed memorial names to be distributed to our worshippers before the High Holy Days and Festival “Yizkor” services.

 

     It is with the avowed purpose of enhancing our religious services that we once again offer this brochure, “The Annual Memorial Book” for the year 5781.  We confidently trust that it will be kindly received in that spirit.

 

   Gary M. Klein D.D.S.

     President

 

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             CLERGY

Jonathan Waxman..................................Rabbi

 

Elliott T. Spar..........................Rabbi Emeritus

 

 

 

 

OFFICERS

 

President

 

Gary M. Klein D.D.S.

 

 

Vice President

 

Richard J. Firestone D.D.S.

 

Recording Secretary

 

Paul Taub

 

Financial Team &

Immediate Past Presidents

 

Glenda Smith & Steve Wunderlich

 

 

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“To Love the Lord, That is Our Life And the Length of Our Days”

 

 

   In this Memorial Book are the names of our loved ones, whom we remember this day with heartfelt affection and unforgettable devotion.  They have achieved immortality in the lengthened shadows of our House of God.  Through the spiritual strength and creative Jewish influences of Temple Beth Sholom, we are assured of the underlying qualities of the people of Israel and our imperishable heritage -- the faith of Israel.

 

     Yizkor should be observed on the evening of the anniversary of the death of the deceased and at synagogue worship.

 

      It is customary on the anniversary to offer a contribution to the Temple in memory of your dearly departed.

 

Yom Kippur.........Monday, Sept. 28, 2020

Shemini Atzeret....Saturday, Oct. 10,2020

Passover..............Saturday, March 27, 2021

Shavuot................Sunday May 16, 2021

 

 

 

    In this solemn hour we recall this day our dear departed whose names have been permanently affixed on our Memorial Wall.  They shall ever be gratefully honored by us and eternally enshrined in our hearts and minds.  We pray Thee O God for the peace of their souls and for comfort to those who mourn their passing.  Let us now in silence contemplate their memories, both of those whose names are perpetuated on our Memorial Tablets and the names sent “In Memorium” for this Day of Remembrance.

 

 

    • Memorial Tablets
    • Tree of Life
    • Dedicated Sanctuary Seats
    • Dedicated Bema Podiums and Doors

     

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IN LOVING MEMORY OF                REMEMBERED BY

 

Clara & Adolph Ader                Harriet & Jack Ader

Sol & Sylvia Ader

Leo Ader

Elizabeth & Isidore Fishbein

Jennie & Max Fischbein

Natalie & Samuel Fischell

Faye Lambersky

Harold & Miriam Lambersky

Evelyn Danners

 

Laurance Caplan                                 The Alperin Family

Leslie Alperin                                              

 

Sheila Berg                                         The Berg Family

Murray & Ida Berg

Irving & Frieda Blumenthal

Ilene Winkler

 

Ruth and Jerome Berger                      Noreen & Darryl Berger

 

Paul Kaufman                                   Alan and Jodi Cohn

Edgar Cohn

Elinor Bramson Cohn Froehlich

 

Anne Cutler                                      Carole & Sheldon Cutler

Rebecca and Joseph Friedman

Esther and Abraham Steinholtz

 

Martin Drew                                     Michael & Zindelle Drew

Ephraim Dobrin

Anne Dobrin

 

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IN LOVING MEMORY OF                REMEMBERED BY

 

Norma Firestone                                 Dr. Richard & Bina Firestone

Harry Feinstein

Frima Feinstein

Stanley Dunitz

Dunitz Family

Seidel Family

Dr. Stanley Oldak

Harry & Jeanette Firestone

Clara and Irving Dunitz

 

Harry and Ida Fischthal                         Marv & Lorraine Fischthal

Ida Buchman Zarisky

Sol Zaritsky

Samuel Buchman

Cora Brazinsky                                

Estelle Dorushkin

Stuart & Libby Buchman

Frida & Murray Rosenthal

 

Jean Fiterman                                   Dr. Michael & Ellen Fishkin

Murray Fiterman

Barbara Fiterman Chess

Harold Fishkin

 

Jack Friedman                                  David & Rebecca Friedman

Irving Young

Jacklyn Friedman

Trudy Brown

Evelyn VivienYoung

Brian Young

Morris Friedman

Rose Friedman

Mildred Novikoff

Marcus Young

Ray Young

 

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IN LOVING MEMORY OF                REMEMBERED BY

 

Nancy Gelbien                                  Mindy & Anthony Giambalvo

Rose Gross

Abe Gross

Anna Gelbien

Joseph Gelbien

Meyer Gelbein

 

Herbert Goldfarb                               Milly & Glenn Goldfarb  

Eugene Segarnick                             

Sylvia Segarnick

 

Edith & Sydney Golub                       Dr. Lorne & Bonny Golub

Rae & Lou Moss

Allan Hilford

David Golub

Murray Golub

Earl Simmons

 

Norman Greenberg                            Susan & Michael Gordon

Sonia Greenberg

Harold Gordon

Joan Gordon

 

Sidney Hoffman                                Carol Haymes

Tillie Hoffman                                 

Eva Haymes

Samuel Haymes

Carl Haymes

 

Alice Hersh                                      Stephen Hersh

Laura Hersh

Albert Hersh

 

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IN LOVING MEMORY OF                REMEMBERED BY

 

Susan Israel                                      Sheila & Mark Israel

Sadye Fink

Morris Fink

Dora Israel

Solomon Israel

Sidney Kleiner

 

Clare Woloshen                                 Rachel Katz &

Leon Woloshen                                 Bette & Marvin Katz

Dorothy Katz

Murray Katz

Ruth Schack

Ray Schack 

 

Shirley & Joe Katz                            Naomi & Richard Kessler

Marion & Harold Kessler

 

Max Kigner                                      The Kigner Family

Frieda Greenberg

Esther Baum

Boris Baum

 

Norma Firestone                               Fern & Gary Klein

Fannie Klein

Harry Feinstein

Irving Klein

Sidney Klein

Marlene Rimler

Sidney Firestone

Bernard Fleischer

Jeanette Firestone

 

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IN LOVING MEMORY OF                REMEMBERED BY

 

David Burris                                      Sheila Konfino

Pauline Burris

The Lebowitz Family

Albert Fisher

 

Eileen Rice                                       Cheryl & Michael Krome

Alan Krome                                     & Family

Loretta Lewis

Ted Rice

 

Justin Kronrad                                  Robert & Dona Kronrad

Pauline Kronrad

Jacob Kronrad                     

B. Slamet Bowo

Eko Kusdariyanto

M.M. Sudariyah S. Bowo                               

 

Pamela Langenthal                            Jerome S. Langenthal

Max & Jean Langenthal                    Mindy Langenthal                                                                       

                                                         Sandi Langenthal

 

Mildred Lederman                             Sy Lederman

Hyman Lederman

Walter Lederman

Mae Lederman

Jayne Gerst

 

Sandy Platzner                                  Dale & Jack Lee

Norma Platzner

Steven Platzner

 

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IN LOVING MEMORY OF                REMEMBERED BY

 

Linda Lipp                                       Robert Lipp

Ira Krakower                                   

Elaine & Joseph Krakower

Stella Kanarek

Bruce Winick

Paula Olsen

Debbie Winick

Michael Lipp

 

Edna Jacobi                                      Madarash Family

Menahem Jacobi

Sidney Wolff

Sadie Greenberg

Frank Greenberg

Barton Needle

 

Esther Miller                                       Enid and Edward Miller

Arthur William Miller

Howard Adam Miller

Sylvia Miller

Arthur Miller

 

Bess Nelson                                     Elaine Nelson

Dora Berk

Sidney Berk

Harvey Nelson

Irwin Berk

Leo Nelson

Lanny Berk

Bernie Nelson

 

Regina (Lima) & Walter Wind             June & Jerry Pashkin

Phyllis & Milton Pashkin

Joseph Frisina

Rebecca (Bea) Neushotz

Syde & Jack Riegelhaupt

Family Members & Victims of the Holocaust

 

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IN LOVING MEMORY OF                REMEMBERED BY

 

Marvin B. Reynolds                           Cantor Carla Reynolds

 

Sidney Rothfarb                                Anita Rothfarb

Isidore Rothfarb

Tillie Bleier

Abe Bleier

Rebecca Rothfarb

Iris Greenberg

 

David Rubinstein                               Cantor Alan Rubinstein

Craig Rubinstein                               & Family

Isidore & Clara Schachter

Israel & Mollie Rubinstein

       Roslyn Rubinstein

 

Goldie Schaer                                   Sidney & Barbara Schaer

Hyman Schaer

 

Saul Shenkman                                Barry & Dahlia Shenkman

Edith Shenkman                             

Rose Beren

Bernard Beren

Bertha Shenkman

Louis Shenkman

Jacob & Yocheved Liscovitch

Dr. Saul Zavell

Sarah Zavell

 

Joy & Charles Graifer                        Elyse & Steven Shuster

Marjorie & Paul Shuster

 

Arthur & Mollie Hartstein                   Phyllis & Jerry Simon

Sadie “Sally” Suskowitz Simon

Robert Simon

 

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IN LOVING MEMORY OF                REMEMBERED BY

 

Myra & Theodore Paul                       Glenda Smith

Augusta & Irving Frank                                 

Etta & Herman Paul

 

Lawrence Malkin                              Marilyn Malkin Speight

Dorothy Malkin

Samuel Malkin

Minnie Edelman

 

Abraham & Martha Stein                    Michael & Jean Stein  & Family

 

Gustav Fishman                                Paul & Thelma Taub

Rae Fishman

Nathan Taub

Bella Taub

Hal Taub

Barbara Taub

 

Rabbi Mordecai & Ruth Waxman         Rabbi Jonathan Waxman

Rabbi Meyer & Sarah Waxman            and Sarrae Crane

Reuben Waxman

Chaim & Bertha Bilgrary                                                       

Ann Ruth Gartzman Crane

Barbara P. Crane

Dr. Norman B. Crane

Naomi Perlman

Mark Perlman

Dr. N. Harry Gartzman

Sarah & Herman Gartzman

Minnie & Herman Cohen

Lillian G. Shatz

Gerald Gartzman

Sophie Borkan

Bess G. Rothbaum

Harold Gantz

 

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IN LOVING MEMORY OF                REMEMBERED BY

 

Michael J. Weiss                               Steven, Diane, Lauren Weiss

 

Richard H. Watov                              The Weiss Family,

Sylvia Watov                                    Ron, Denise, Josh & Ariel

Dorris Mines

Jerry Mines

Savta Frieda            

 

Herbert Shapiro                                 Jodi, Ken, Amanda & Brock

Ruth Shapiro                                                Whitman

Helene Whitman

 

Dustin Wunderlich                             Debbie & Steve Wunderlich

Jessie Wunderlich

Nat Wunderlich

Magda Gelman

Sam Gelman

Shelli Wunderlich

 

Oscar Zuckerman                              Dr. Mark Zuckerman & Family

Raymond Zuckerman

 

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SOME JEWISH MOURNING CUSTOMS

WHO ARE THE MOURNERS?

 

  The laws of mourning are observed in the case of the death of certain relatives:  father, mother, husband, wife, son, daughter, brother or sister (including half-brother or half-sister).  The Hebrew term for mourning is Avelut, for mourner is Avel.

 

WHAT IS KERIAH?

 

   The Hebrew term Keriah, rending the garment worn by the mourner, refers to the rite performed before the funeral.  In the case of a parent, the rent is made on the left side over the heart.  In the case of other blood relatives, the rent is made on the right side.  In some Jewish communities, a black ribbon is worn by the Avelim:  it is cut in the manner described above.  It is the outer symbol of a torn and broken heart.  It is obligatory upon both men and women.  As the Keriah is made, the mourner recites the following blessing:

 

Bo-ruch Atoh Ado-noy Elo-hey-nu Me-lech

Ha-Olom Da-yan Ha-Emes.

“Blessed art Thou, O Lord our God, King

Of the Universe, the true Judge.”

 

 

OBSERVING SHIVAH

 

Shivah is the Hebrew term meaning seven days of mourning.  It begins immediately after the funeral.  The day of burial is counted as the first day:  it ends on the morning of the seventh day, one hour being regarded as a full day.

 

    • When vexing questions concerning traditional Jewish practices arise, consult the Rabbi.  Too frequently well -intentioned members of the family or friends will offer advice that may be based on some superstitious practice or on some local custom which has no authoritative basis in the Jewish law.  Only a very few Jewish mourning  practices are brought here, the most general and universal ones.

 

   Mourners remain in their homes during the weekdays of the SHIVAH, but may attend Synagogue services on Friday evening and Sabbath morning.  They should not transact any business during this period.  Marital relations are forbidden.  Household duties may be done by the mourners for their own use.  Persons compelled to work for others for their maintenance may do so after three days have passed.

 

   Mourners are supposed to sit on low stools or chairs.  They should wear slippers, traditional symbols of mourning.  They should not take part in any festivity or amusememt during the first thirty days after the death of a relative, during the first twelve months after a parent.

   Covering mirrors in house of mourning is not based on any Jewish law.  Many authorities regard this practice as superstitious.  Others interpret it symbolically saying that it is unseemly to be vain in the presence of death and sorrow.

 

   Whenever one mentions the name of the deceased, it is a beautiful Jewish custom to add the phrase in Hebrew:

O-lovha-sholom, “Peace be upon him!” for a male; and O-leho-ha-sholom, “Peace be upon her!” for a female.

 

THE MOURNER’S KADDISH

 

  Mourners should attend services as part of a Minyan (a religious quorum of ten Jewish adults) to recite the

mourner’s Kaddish three times daily, morning, afternoon, and evenings; the afternoon and evening services follow within a few minutes of each other.

 

   A mourner is supposed to say the Kaddish for a period of eleven months from the date of burial.

 

   The Kaddish prayer is of ancient but uncertain origin.  It is foreshadowed in the Bible and is mentioned in the writings of ancient teachers and mystics, but it is not mentioned in its entirety in the Bible, Mishna, Talmud or Midrash.  The Kaddish is apparently a prayer which grew gradually from generation to generation until about 700 or 800 C.E.  It aquired the form which is found in our prayer books.

 

   The Kaddish has no reference to death in it.  It expresses man’s glorification of God.  It supplicates God for the coming of His Kingdom upon earth.  It prays for peace upon the House of Israel.  It is Israel’s noblest expression of faith in God and His goodness, said by the mourner in the presence of life’s deepest sorrow--the death of a dear and beloved one.  When we stand before the open, dark grave that swallows what was dearest to us here on earth, Judaism bids us proclaim our faith in the God of Life, in the goodness of Life, in the coming of His Kingdom of justice, truth and peace for all His children.  We exclaim:  “Blessed be the Name of the Lord”.

 

 

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WHAT IS YAHRZEIT?

 

  Yahrzeit, or Year’s Time, is the anniversary of the death of a dear one.  This name first occurs in a book called Minhagim by Isaac of Tyrnau in the 14th or 15th century.

 

   Yahrzeit is observed solemnly.  A light should be kindled in the home on the eve of the anniversary of death which is usually reckoned by the Hebrew calendar.  It should remain lighted until sunset the next day.  All amusements and festivities should be avoided.  Every effort should be made to say Kaddish in the synagogue at the three services: evening, morning and afternoon.  Jewish tradition encourages the performance of a Mitzvah, a meritorious deed, on that day, such as:  study a portion of the Torah, act as Baal, Reader of Services, and giving a donation in the memory of the departed to a religious, educational, or philanthropic cause.

 

   Yahrzeit is reckoned according to the day of interment in the first year.  But in following years it is observed on the day of death.

 

 

WHAT IS YIZKOR?  EL MOLE RAHAMIM?

 

   Yizkor is the first word of the phrase Yizkor Elohim Nishmat...(“May God remember the soul of......”)  It is a prayer for the repose of the soul of a dear one, recited in Synagogue by a son, daughter or other close relative.   It varies according to the sex and relationship of the person mentioned.

 

 

   Yizkor is usually said by relatives on four occasions in the year:  Yom Kippur, the eighth day of Passover, the

second day of Shavout and Shemini Atzeret.  A monetary donation offered with it is usually given to the Synagogue.

 

   The El Mole Rahamim is recited for the mourners at funerals, at Yahrzeit, and at the time of their visit at the graves of their departed.  It may be offered on Mondays and Thursdays after the reading of the Torah.  And on Yom Kippur and the last days of the Festivals, it is the climatic prayer of the memorial service.

 

VISITING THE CEMETERY

 

  There is no definite rule about visiting the cemetery after the death of a dear one.   The usual practice is not to go to the cemetery for a period of thirty days after burial.

 

ERECTING THE TOMBSTONE

 

   According to tradition, the Tombstone is erected and dedicated preferably towards the end of the first year of interment.

 

“May the Almighty comfort you among all the mourners of Zion and Jerusalem.”

“The Lord gave, and the Lord hath taken away!  Blessed be the name of the Lord”

Job2:10

 

 

IN EVERLASTING REMEMBRANCE

   The synagogue is our spiritual home and the treasure house from which we draw the inspiration and guidance of our forefathers.  As we support its sacred work, we give life to those who preceded us.

 

   Testamentary legacies and endowments can be made to honor the departed by serving the living.

 

   

IN MEMORY OF OUR PAST LEADERS

Rebbitzen Sondra Lee Spar

 

 

TEMPLE PRESIDENTS

Chauncey Ingram

Dr. Jack Hanover

Dr. Lawrence Karp

Irving Singer

Dr. Kenneth Kronman

Dr. Fred Fischler

Lee W. Phillips

Dr. Marvin Winston

Bernard Kaplan

Donald Berman

Tue, December 1 2020 15 Kislev 5781