Annual Memorial Book
Temple Beth Sholom
Smithtown, NY
Annual Memorial Book
2023 – 2024
5783 - 5784
Following the practice observed by most Conservative congregations, our Temple Beth Sholom leadership has approved the preparation in printed form, of the enclosed memorial names to be distributed to our worshippers before the High Holy Days and Festival “Yizkor” services.
It is with the avowed purpose of enhancing our religious services that we once again offer this brochure, “The Annual Memorial Book” for the year 5783. We confidently trust that it will be kindly received in that spirit.
Gary M. Klein D.D.S.
President
CLERGY
Jonathan Waxman..................................Rabbi
OFFICERS
President
Gary M. Klein D.D.S.
Vice President
Richard J. Firestone D.D.S.
Recording Secretary
Paul Taub
Financial Team &
Immediate Past Presidents
Glenda Smith & Steve Wunderlich
Board of Trustees
David Friedman
Cheryl & Michael Krome
Jerry Pashkin
“To Love the Lord, That is Our Life And the Length of Our Days”
In this Memorial Book are the names of our loved ones, whom we remember this day with heartfelt affection and unforgettable devotion. They have achieved immortality in the lengthened shadows of our House of God. Through the spiritual strength and creative Jewish influences of Temple Beth Sholom, we are assured of the underlying qualities of the people of Israel and our imperishable heritage -- the faith of Israel. Yizkor should be observed on the evening of the anniversary of the death of the deceased and at synagogue worship.
It is customary on the anniversary to offer a contribution to the Temple in memory of your dearly departed.
Yom Kippur.........Monday, Sept. 24, 2023
Shemini Atzeret....Wednesday, Oct. 23, 2024
Passover..............Monday, April 22, 2024
Shavuot................Tuesday, June 11, 2024
In this solemn hour we recall this day our dear departed whose names have been permanently affixed on our Memorial Wall. They shall ever be gratefully honored by us and eternally enshrined in our hearts and minds. We pray Thee O God for the peace of their souls and for comfort to those who mourn their passing. Let us now in silence contemplate their memories, both of those whose names are perpetuated on our Memorial Tablets and the names sent “In Memorium” for this Day of Remembrance.
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- Memorial Tablets
- Tree of Life
- Dedicated Sanctuary Seats
- Dedicated Bema Podiums and Doors
IN LOVING MEMORY OF
REMEMBERED BY Harriet & Jack Ader
Clara & Adolph Ader - Sol & Sylvia Ader - Leo Ader Elizabeth & Isidore Fishbein
Jennie & Max Fischbein - Natalie & Samuel Fischell Faye Lambersky
Harold & Miriam Lambersky - Evelyn Danners
REMEMBERED BY The Berg Family
Sheila Berg - Murray & Ida Berg - Irving & Frieda Blumenthal - Ilene Winkler
REMEMBERED BY Noreen & Darryl Berger
Ruth and Jerome Berger - Paul Kaufman
Alan and Jodi Cohn - Edgar Cohn - Elinor Bramson Cohn Froehlich
Ruth M Berger - Jerome H. Berger
Dr. Shannon Kula- Clark
REMEMBERED BY Carole & Sheldon Cutler
Anne Cutler - Rebecca and Joseph Friedman
Esther and Abraham Steinholtz
REMEMBERED BY Dr. Richard & Bina Firestone
Norma Firestone - Harry Feinstein - Frima Feinstein Stanley Dunitz Dunitz Family Seidel Family - Dr. Stanley OldakHarry & Jeanette Firestone -
Clara and Irving Dunitz
REMEMBERED BY Marv & Lorraine Fischthal
Harry and Ida Fischthal - Ida Buchman Zarisky
Sol Zaritsky - Samuel Buchman
Cora Brazinsky - Estelle Dorushkin
Stuart & Libby Buchman - Frida & Murray Rosenthal
REMEMBERED BY Dr. Michael & Ellen Fishkin
Jean Fiterman - Murray Fiterman
Barbara Fiterman Chess - Harold Fishkin
REMEMBERED BY David & Rebecca Friedman
Jack Friedman - Irving Young - Jacklyn Friedman
Trudy Brown - Evelyn VivienYoung - Brian Young
Morris Friedman - Rose Friedman - Mildred Novikoff
Marcus Young - Ray Young
REMEMBERED BY Mindy & Anthony Giambalvo
Nancy Gelbien - Rose Gross - Abe Gross - Anna Gelbien Joseph Gelbien - Meyer Gelbein
REMEMBERED BY Milly & Glenn Goldfarb
Herbert Goldfarb - Eugene Segarnick - Sylvia Segarnick
Edith & Murray Hilton - Kenny Filkow
REMEMBERED BY Dr. Lorne & Bonny Golub
Edith & Sydney Golub - Rae & Lou Moss - Allan Hilford David Golub - Murray Golub - Earl Simmons
REMEMBERED BY Carol Haymes
Sidney Hoffman - Tillie Hoffman – Eva - Haymes
Samuel Haymes - Carl Haymes
REMEMBERED BY Stephen Hersh
Alice Hersh - Laura Hersh - Albert Hersh
REMEMBERED BY The Kigner Family
Max Kigner - Frieda Greenberg - Esther Baum - Boris Baum
REMEMBERED BY Fern & Gary Klein
Norma Firestone - Fannie Klein - Harry Feinstein Irving Klein
Sidney Klein - Marlene Rimler - Sidney Firestone
Bernard Fleischer - Jeanette Firestone - Phillis Hornung
REMEMBERED BY Sheila Konfino
David Burris - Pauline Burris
The Lebowitz Family - Albert Fisher
REMEMBERED BY Cheryl & Michael Krome & Family
Eileen Rice - Alan Krome - Loretta Lewis -Ted Rice
Sandy Platzner - Norma Platzner - Steven Platzner
REMEMBERED BY Robert Lipp
Linda Lipp - Ira Krakower - Elaine & Joseph Krakower
Stella Kanarek - Bruce Winick - Paula Olsen
Debbie Winick - Michael Lipp
REMEMBERED BY Madarash Family
Edna Jacobi - Menahem Jacobi - Sidney Wolff
Sadie Greenberg - Frank Greenberg - Barton Needle
REMEMBERED BY Enid and Edward Miller
Esther Miller - Arthur William Miller - Howard Adam Miller
Sylvia Miller - Arthur Miller
REMEMBERED BY June & Jerry Pashkin
Regina (Lima) & Walter Wind - Phyllis & Milto Pashkin
Joseph Frisina - Rebecca (Bea) Neushotz
Syde & Jack Riegelhaupt
Family Members & Victims of the Holocaust
REMEMBERED BY Anita Rothfarb
Sidney Rothfarb - Isidore Rothfarb - Tillie Bleier
Abe Bleier - Rebecca Rothfarb - Iris Greenberg
REMEMBERED BY Cantor Alan Rubinstein & Family
David Rubinstein - Craig Rubinstein
Isidore & Clara Schachter - Israel & Mollie Rubinstein
Roslyn Rubinstein
REMEMBERED BY Sidney & Barbara Schaer
Goldie Schaer - Hyman Schaer
REMEMBERED BY Barry & Dahlia Shenkman
Saul Shenkman - Edith Shenkman - Rose Beren
Bernard Beren - Bertha Shenkman - Louis Shenkman
Jacob & Yocheved Liscovitch
Dr. Saul Zavell - Sarah Zavell
REMEMBERED BY Elyse & Steven Shuster
Joy & Charles Graifer - Marjorie & Paul Shuster
REMEMBERED BY Phyllis Simon & Family
Jerry Simon - Robert Simon
Arthur & Mollie Hartstein
Sadie & Bernard Suskowitz - AnnKesnozoff
REMEMBERED BY Glenda Smith
Myra & Theodore Paul
Augusta & Irving Frank - Etta & Herman Paul
REMEMBERED BY Marilyn Malkin Speight
Lawrence Malkin - Dorothy Malkin
Samuel Malkin - Minnie Edelman
REMEMBERED BY Michael & Jean Stein & Family
Abraham & Martha Stein
REMEMBERED BY Paul & Thelma Taub
Gustav Fishman Rae Fishman - Nathan Taub
Bella Taub - Hal Taub - Barbara Taub
REMEMBERED BY
Rabbi Jonathan Waxman and Sarrae Crane
Rabbi Mordecai & Ruth Waxman
Rabbi Meyer & Sarah Waxman
Reuben Waxman - Chaim & Bertha Bilgrary
Ann Ruth Gartzman Crane - Barbara P. Crane
Dr. Norman B. Crane - Naomi Perlman - Mark Perlman
Dr. N. Harry Gartzman - Sarah & Herman Gartzman
Minnie & Herman Cohen - Lillian G. Shatz
Gerald Gartzman - Sophie Borkan - Bess G. Rothbaum
Harold Gantz
REMEMBERED BY
The Weiss Family
Richard H. Watov - Sylvia Watov - Dorris Mines
Jerry Mines - Savta Frieda
REMEMBERED BY Debbie & Steve Wunderlich
Dustin Wunderlich - Jessie Wunderlich - Nat Wunderlich
Magda Gelman - Sam Gelman
Shelli Wunderlich - Steven Friede
REMEMBERED BY Dr. Mark Zuckerman & Family
Oscar Zuckerman - Raymond Zuckerman
SOME JEWISH MOURNING CUSTOMS
WHO ARE THE MOURNERS?
The laws of mourning are observed in the case of the death of certain relatives: father, mother, husband, wife, son, daughter, brother or sister (including half-brother or half-sister). The Hebrew term for mourning is Avelut, for mourner is Avel.
WHAT IS KERIAH?
The Hebrew term Keriah, rending the garment worn by the mourner, refers to the rite performed before the funeral. In the case of a parent, the rent is made on the left side over the heart. In the case of other blood relatives, the rent is made on the right side. In some Jewish communities, a black ribbon is worn by the Avelim: it is cut in the manner described above. It is the outer symbol of a torn and broken heart. It is obligatory upon both men and women. As the Keriah is made, the mourner recites the following blessing:
Bo-ruch Atoh Ado-noy Elo-hey-nu Me-lech
Ha-Olom Da-yan Ha-Emes.
“Blessed art Thou, O Lord our God, King
OBSERVING SHIVAH
Shivah is the Hebrew term meaning seven days of mourning. It begins immediately after the funeral. The day of burial is counted as the first day: it ends on the morning of the seventh day, one hour being regarded as a full day.
When vexing questions concerning traditional Jewish practices arise, consult the Rabbi. Too frequently well -intentioned members of the family or friends will offer advice that may be based on some superstitious practice or on some local custom which has no authoritative basis in the Jewish law. Only a very few Jewish mourning practices are brought here, the most general and universal ones.
Mourners remain in their homes during the weekdays of the SHIVAH, but may attend Synagogue services on Friday evening and Sabbath morning. They should not transact any business during this period. Marital relations are forbidden. Household duties may be done by the mourners for their own use. Persons compelled to work for others for their maintenance may do so after three days have passed.
Mourners are supposed to sit on low stools or chairs. They should wear slippers, traditional symbols of mourning. They should not take part in any festivity or amusememt during the first thirty days after the death of a relative, during the first twelve months after a parent.
Covering mirrors in house of mourning is not based on any Jewish law. Many authorities regard this practice as superstitious. Others interpret it symbolically saying that it is unseemly to be vain in the presence of death and sorrow.
Whenever one mentions the name of the deceased, it is a beautiful Jewish custom to add the phrase in Hebrew:
O-lovha-sholom, “Peace be upon him!” for a male; and O-leho-ha-sholom, “Peace be upon her!” for a female.
THE MOURNER’S KADDISH
Mourners should attend services as part of a Minyan (a religious quorum of ten Jewish adults) to recite the
mourner’s Kaddish three times daily, morning, afternoon, and evenings; the afternoon and evening services follow within a few minutes of each other.
A mourner is supposed to say the Kaddish for a period of eleven months from the date of burial.
The Kaddish prayer is of ancient but uncertain origin. It is foreshadowed in the Bible and is mentioned in the writings of ancient teachers and mystics, but it is not mentioned in its entirety in the Bible, Mishna, Talmud or Midrash. The Kaddish is apparently a prayer which grew gradually from generation to generation until about 700 or 800 C.E. It aquired the form which is found in our prayer books.
The Kaddish has no reference to death in it. It expresses man’s glorification of God. It supplicates God for the coming of His Kingdom upon earth. It prays for peace upon the House of Israel. It is Israel’s noblest expression of faith in God and His goodness, said by the mourner in the presence of life’s deepest sorrow--the death of a dear and beloved one. When we stand before the open, dark grave that swallows what was dearest to us here on earth, Judaism bids us proclaim our faith in the God of Life, in the goodness of Life, in the coming of His Kingdom of justice, truth and peace for all His children. We exclaim: “Blessed be the Name of the Lord”.
WHAT IS YAHRZEIT?
Yahrzeit, or Year’s Time, is the anniversary of the death of a dear one. This name first occurs in a book called Minhagim by Isaac of Tyrnau in the 14th or 15th century.
Yahrzeit is observed solemnly. A light should be kindled in the home on the eve of the anniversary of death which is usually reckoned by the Hebrew calendar. It should remain lighted until sunset the next day. All amusements and festivities should be avoided. Every effort should be made to say Kaddish in the synagogue at the three services: evening, morning and afternoon. Jewish tradition encourages the performance of a Mitzvah, a meritorious deed, on that day, such as: study a portion of the Torah, act as Baal, Reader of Services, and giving a donation in the memory of the departed to a religious, educational, or philanthropic cause.
Yahrzeit is reckoned according to the day of interment in the first year. But in following years it is observed on the day of death.
WHAT IS YIZKOR? EL MOLE RAHAMIM?
Yizkor is the first word of the phrase Yizkor Elohim Nishmat...(“May God remember the soul of......”) It is a prayer for the repose of the soul of a dear one, recited in Synagogue by a son, daughter or other close relative. It varies according to the sex and relationship of the person mentioned.
Yizkor is usually said by relatives on four occasions in the year: Yom Kippur, the eighth day of Passover, the
second day of Shavout and Shemini Atzeret. A monetary donation offered with it is usually given to the Synagogue.
The El Mole Rahamim is recited for the mourners at funerals, at Yahrzeit, and at the time of their visit at the graves of their departed. It may be offered on Mondays and Thursdays after the reading of the Torah. And on Yom Kippur and the last days of the Festivals, it is the climatic prayer of the memorial service.
ERECTING THE TOMBSTONE
According to tradition, the Tombstone is erected and dedicated preferably towards the end of the first year of interment.
“May the Almighty comfort you among all the mourners of Zion and Jerusalem.”
“The Lord gave, and the Lord hath taken away! Blessed be the name of the Lord”
Job2:10
IN EVERLASTING REMEMBRANCE
The synagogue is our spiritual home and the treasure house from which we draw the inspiration and guidance of our forefathers. As we support its sacred work, we give life to those who preceded us. Testamentary legacies and endowments can be made to honor the departed by serving the living
IN MEMORY OF OUR PAST LEADERS
Elliott T. Spar..........................Rabbi Emeritus
Rebbitzen Sondra Lee Spar
TEMPLE PRESIDENTS
Chauncey Ingram
Dr. Jack Hanover
Dr. Lawrence Karp
Irving Singer
Dr. Kenneth Kronman
Dr. Fred Fischler
Lee W. Phillips
Dr. Marvin Winston
Bernard Kaplan
Donald Berman
Ellen Kranzler
Dr. Albert Trachtenberg
Charles W. Serby