Annual Memorial Book
2020 - 2021
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Temple Beth Sholom
Smithtown, NY
Annual Memorial Book
2020 - 2021
Following the practice observed by most Conservative congregations, our Temple Beth Sholom leadership has approved the preparation in printed form, of the enclosed memorial names to be distributed to our worshippers before the High Holy Days and Festival “Yizkor” services.
It is with the avowed purpose of enhancing our religious services that we once again offer this brochure, “The Annual Memorial Book” for the year 5781. We confidently trust that it will be kindly received in that spirit.
Gary M. Klein D.D.S.
President
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CLERGY
Jonathan Waxman..................................Rabbi
Elliott T. Spar..........................Rabbi Emeritus
OFFICERS
President
Gary M. Klein D.D.S.
Vice President
Richard J. Firestone D.D.S.
Recording Secretary
Paul Taub
Financial Team &
Immediate Past Presidents
Glenda Smith & Steve Wunderlich
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“To Love the Lord, That is Our Life And the Length of Our Days”
In this Memorial Book are the names of our loved ones, whom we remember this day with heartfelt affection and unforgettable devotion. They have achieved immortality in the lengthened shadows of our House of God. Through the spiritual strength and creative Jewish influences of Temple Beth Sholom, we are assured of the underlying qualities of the people of Israel and our imperishable heritage -- the faith of Israel.
Yizkor should be observed on the evening of the anniversary of the death of the deceased and at synagogue worship.
It is customary on the anniversary to offer a contribution to the Temple in memory of your dearly departed.
Yom Kippur.........Wednesday Oct. 5, 2022
Shemini Atzeret....Monday, Oct. 17,2022
Passover..............Wednesday, April 5, 2023
Shavuot................Friday May 26, 2023
In this solemn hour we recall this day our dear departed whose names have been permanently affixed on our Memorial Wall. They shall ever be gratefully honored by us and eternally enshrined in our hearts and minds. We pray Thee O God for the peace of their souls and for comfort to those who mourn their passing. Let us now in silence contemplate their memories, both of those whose names are perpetuated on our Memorial Tablets and the names sent “In Memorium” for this Day of Remembrance.
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- Memorial Tablets
- Tree of Life
- Dedicated Sanctuary Seats
- Dedicated Bema Podiums and Doors
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IN LOVING MEMORY OF REMEMBERED BY
Clara & Adolph Ader Harriet & Jack Ader
Sol & Sylvia Ader
Leo Ader
Elizabeth & Isidore Fishbein
Jennie & Max Fischbein
Natalie & Samuel Fischell
Faye Lambersky
Harold & Miriam Lambersky
Evelyn Danners
Laurance Caplan The Alperin Family
Leslie Alperin
Sheila Berg The Berg Family
Murray & Ida Berg
Irving & Frieda Blumenthal
Ilene Winkler
Ruth and Jerome Berger Noreen & Darryl Berger
Paul Kaufman Alan and Jodi Cohn
Edgar Cohn
Elinor Bramson Cohn Froehlich
Anne Cutler Carole & Sheldon Cutler
Rebecca and Joseph Friedman
Esther and Abraham Steinholtz
Martin Drew Michael & Zindelle Drew
Ephraim Dobrin
Anne Dobrin
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IN LOVING MEMORY OF REMEMBERED BY
Norma Firestone Dr. Richard & Bina Firestone
Harry Feinstein
Frima Feinstein
Stanley Dunitz
Dunitz Family
Seidel Family
Dr. Stanley Oldak
Harry & Jeanette Firestone
Clara and Irving Dunitz
Harry and Ida Fischthal Marv & Lorraine Fischthal
Ida Buchman Zarisky
Sol Zaritsky
Samuel Buchman
Cora Brazinsky
Estelle Dorushkin
Stuart & Libby Buchman
Frida & Murray Rosenthal
Jean Fiterman Dr. Michael & Ellen Fishkin
Murray Fiterman
Barbara Fiterman Chess
Harold Fishkin
Jack Friedman David & Rebecca Friedman
Irving Young
Jacklyn Friedman
Trudy Brown
Evelyn VivienYoung
Brian Young
Morris Friedman
Rose Friedman
Mildred Novikoff
Marcus Young
Ray Young
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IN LOVING MEMORY OF REMEMBERED BY
Nancy Gelbien Mindy & Anthony Giambalvo
Rose Gross
Abe Gross
Anna Gelbien
Joseph Gelbien
Meyer Gelbein
Herbert Goldfarb Milly & Glenn Goldfarb
Eugene Segarnick
Sylvia Segarnick
Edith & Sydney Golub Dr. Lorne & Bonny Golub
Rae & Lou Moss
Allan Hilford
David Golub
Murray Golub
Earl Simmons
Norman Greenberg Susan & Michael Gordon
Sonia Greenberg
Harold Gordon
Joan Gordon
Sidney Hoffman Carol Haymes
Tillie Hoffman
Eva Haymes
Samuel Haymes
Carl Haymes
Alice Hersh Stephen Hersh
Laura Hersh
Albert Hersh
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IN LOVING MEMORY OF REMEMBERED BY
Susan Israel Sheila & Mark Israel
Sadye Fink
Morris Fink
Dora Israel
Solomon Israel
Sidney Kleiner
Clare Woloshen Rachel Katz &
Leon Woloshen Bette & Marvin Katz
Dorothy Katz
Murray Katz
Ruth Schack
Ray Schack
Shirley & Joe Katz Naomi & Richard Kessler
Marion & Harold Kessler
Max Kigner The Kigner Family
Frieda Greenberg
Esther Baum
Boris Baum
Norma Firestone Fern & Gary Klein
Fannie Klein
Harry Feinstein
Irving Klein
Sidney Klein
Marlene Rimler
Sidney Firestone
Bernard Fleischer
Jeanette Firestone
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IN LOVING MEMORY OF REMEMBERED BY
David Burris Sheila Konfino
Pauline Burris
The Lebowitz Family
Albert Fisher
Eileen Rice Cheryl & Michael Krome
Alan Krome & Family
Loretta Lewis
Ted Rice
Justin Kronrad Robert & Dona Kronrad
Pauline Kronrad
Jacob Kronrad
B. Slamet Bowo
Eko Kusdariyanto
M.M. Sudariyah S. Bowo
Pamela Langenthal Jerome S. Langenthal
Max & Jean Langenthal Mindy Langenthal
Sandi Langenthal
Mildred Lederman Sy Lederman
Hyman Lederman
Walter Lederman
Mae Lederman
Jayne Gerst
Sandy Platzner Dale & Jack Lee
Norma Platzner
Steven Platzner
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IN LOVING MEMORY OF REMEMBERED BY
Linda Lipp Robert Lipp
Ira Krakower
Elaine & Joseph Krakower
Stella Kanarek
Bruce Winick
Paula Olsen
Debbie Winick
Michael Lipp
Edna Jacobi Madarash Family
Menahem Jacobi
Sidney Wolff
Sadie Greenberg
Frank Greenberg
Barton Needle
Esther Miller Enid and Edward Miller
Arthur William Miller
Howard Adam Miller
Sylvia Miller
Arthur Miller
Bess Nelson Elaine Nelson
Dora Berk
Sidney Berk
Harvey Nelson
Irwin Berk
Leo Nelson
Lanny Berk
Bernie Nelson
Regina (Lima) & Walter Wind June & Jerry Pashkin
Phyllis & Milton Pashkin
Joseph Frisina
Rebecca (Bea) Neushotz
Syde & Jack Riegelhaupt
Family Members & Victims of the Holocaust
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IN LOVING MEMORY OF REMEMBERED BY
Marvin B. Reynolds Cantor Carla Reynolds
Sidney Rothfarb Anita Rothfarb
Isidore Rothfarb
Tillie Bleier
Abe Bleier
Rebecca Rothfarb
Iris Greenberg
David Rubinstein Cantor Alan Rubinstein
Craig Rubinstein & Family
Isidore & Clara Schachter
Israel & Mollie Rubinstein
Roslyn Rubinstein
Goldie Schaer Sidney & Barbara Schaer
Hyman Schaer
Saul Shenkman Barry & Dahlia Shenkman
Edith Shenkman
Rose Beren
Bernard Beren
Bertha Shenkman
Louis Shenkman
Jacob & Yocheved Liscovitch
Dr. Saul Zavell
Sarah Zavell
Joy & Charles Graifer Elyse & Steven Shuster
Marjorie & Paul Shuster
Arthur & Mollie Hartstein Phyllis & Jerry Simon
Sadie “Sally” Suskowitz Simon
Robert Simon
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IN LOVING MEMORY OF REMEMBERED BY
Myra & Theodore Paul Glenda Smith
Augusta & Irving Frank
Etta & Herman Paul
Lawrence Malkin Marilyn Malkin Speight
Dorothy Malkin
Samuel Malkin
Minnie Edelman
Abraham & Martha Stein Michael & Jean Stein & Family
Gustav Fishman Paul & Thelma Taub
Rae Fishman
Nathan Taub
Bella Taub
Hal Taub
Barbara Taub
Rabbi Mordecai & Ruth Waxman Rabbi Jonathan Waxman
Rabbi Meyer & Sarah Waxman and Sarrae Crane
Reuben Waxman
Chaim & Bertha Bilgrary
Ann Ruth Gartzman Crane
Barbara P. Crane
Dr. Norman B. Crane
Naomi Perlman
Mark Perlman
Dr. N. Harry Gartzman
Sarah & Herman Gartzman
Minnie & Herman Cohen
Lillian G. Shatz
Gerald Gartzman
Sophie Borkan
Bess G. Rothbaum
Harold Gantz
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IN LOVING MEMORY OF REMEMBERED BY
Michael J. Weiss Steven, Diane, Lauren Weiss
Richard H. Watov The Weiss Family,
Sylvia Watov Ron, Denise, Josh & Ariel
Dorris Mines
Jerry Mines
Savta Frieda
Herbert Shapiro Jodi, Ken, Amanda & Brock
Ruth Shapiro Whitman
Helene Whitman
Dustin Wunderlich Debbie & Steve Wunderlich
Jessie Wunderlich
Nat Wunderlich
Magda Gelman
Sam Gelman
Shelli Wunderlich
Oscar Zuckerman Dr. Mark Zuckerman & Family
Raymond Zuckerman
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SOME JEWISH MOURNING CUSTOMS
WHO ARE THE MOURNERS?
The laws of mourning are observed in the case of the death of certain relatives: father, mother, husband, wife, son, daughter, brother or sister (including half-brother or half-sister). The Hebrew term for mourning is Avelut, for mourner is Avel.
WHAT IS KERIAH?
The Hebrew term Keriah, rending the garment worn by the mourner, refers to the rite performed before the funeral. In the case of a parent, the rent is made on the left side over the heart. In the case of other blood relatives, the rent is made on the right side. In some Jewish communities, a black ribbon is worn by the Avelim: it is cut in the manner described above. It is the outer symbol of a torn and broken heart. It is obligatory upon both men and women. As the Keriah is made, the mourner recites the following blessing:
Bo-ruch Atoh Ado-noy Elo-hey-nu Me-lech
Ha-Olom Da-yan Ha-Emes.
“Blessed art Thou, O Lord our God, King
Of the Universe, the true Judge.”
OBSERVING SHIVAH
Shivah is the Hebrew term meaning seven days of mourning. It begins immediately after the funeral. The day of burial is counted as the first day: it ends on the morning of the seventh day, one hour being regarded as a full day.
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- When vexing questions concerning traditional Jewish practices arise, consult the Rabbi. Too frequently well -intentioned members of the family or friends will offer advice that may be based on some superstitious practice or on some local custom which has no authoritative basis in the Jewish law. Only a very few Jewish mourning practices are brought here, the most general and universal ones.
Mourners remain in their homes during the weekdays of the SHIVAH, but may attend Synagogue services on Friday evening and Sabbath morning. They should not transact any business during this period. Marital relations are forbidden. Household duties may be done by the mourners for their own use. Persons compelled to work for others for their maintenance may do so after three days have passed.
Mourners are supposed to sit on low stools or chairs. They should wear slippers, traditional symbols of mourning. They should not take part in any festivity or amusememt during the first thirty days after the death of a relative, during the first twelve months after a parent.
Covering mirrors in house of mourning is not based on any Jewish law. Many authorities regard this practice as superstitious. Others interpret it symbolically saying that it is unseemly to be vain in the presence of death and sorrow.
Whenever one mentions the name of the deceased, it is a beautiful Jewish custom to add the phrase in Hebrew:
O-lovha-sholom, “Peace be upon him!” for a male; and O-leho-ha-sholom, “Peace be upon her!” for a female.
THE MOURNER’S KADDISH
Mourners should attend services as part of a Minyan (a religious quorum of ten Jewish adults) to recite the
mourner’s Kaddish three times daily, morning, afternoon, and evenings; the afternoon and evening services follow within a few minutes of each other.
A mourner is supposed to say the Kaddish for a period of eleven months from the date of burial.
The Kaddish prayer is of ancient but uncertain origin. It is foreshadowed in the Bible and is mentioned in the writings of ancient teachers and mystics, but it is not mentioned in its entirety in the Bible, Mishna, Talmud or Midrash. The Kaddish is apparently a prayer which grew gradually from generation to generation until about 700 or 800 C.E. It aquired the form which is found in our prayer books.
The Kaddish has no reference to death in it. It expresses man’s glorification of God. It supplicates God for the coming of His Kingdom upon earth. It prays for peace upon the House of Israel. It is Israel’s noblest expression of faith in God and His goodness, said by the mourner in the presence of life’s deepest sorrow--the death of a dear and beloved one. When we stand before the open, dark grave that swallows what was dearest to us here on earth, Judaism bids us proclaim our faith in the God of Life, in the goodness of Life, in the coming of His Kingdom of justice, truth and peace for all His children. We exclaim: “Blessed be the Name of the Lord”.
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WHAT IS YAHRZEIT?
Yahrzeit, or Year’s Time, is the anniversary of the death of a dear one. This name first occurs in a book called Minhagim by Isaac of Tyrnau in the 14th or 15th century.
Yahrzeit is observed solemnly. A light should be kindled in the home on the eve of the anniversary of death which is usually reckoned by the Hebrew calendar. It should remain lighted until sunset the next day. All amusements and festivities should be avoided. Every effort should be made to say Kaddish in the synagogue at the three services: evening, morning and afternoon. Jewish tradition encourages the performance of a Mitzvah, a meritorious deed, on that day, such as: study a portion of the Torah, act as Baal, Reader of Services, and giving a donation in the memory of the departed to a religious, educational, or philanthropic cause.
Yahrzeit is reckoned according to the day of interment in the first year. But in following years it is observed on the day of death.
WHAT IS YIZKOR? EL MOLE RAHAMIM?
Yizkor is the first word of the phrase Yizkor Elohim Nishmat...(“May God remember the soul of......”) It is a prayer for the repose of the soul of a dear one, recited in Synagogue by a son, daughter or other close relative. It varies according to the sex and relationship of the person mentioned.
Yizkor is usually said by relatives on four occasions in the year: Yom Kippur, the eighth day of Passover, the
second day of Shavout and Shemini Atzeret. A monetary donation offered with it is usually given to the Synagogue.
The El Mole Rahamim is recited for the mourners at funerals, at Yahrzeit, and at the time of their visit at the graves of their departed. It may be offered on Mondays and Thursdays after the reading of the Torah. And on Yom Kippur and the last days of the Festivals, it is the climatic prayer of the memorial service.
VISITING THE CEMETERY
There is no definite rule about visiting the cemetery after the death of a dear one. The usual practice is not to go to the cemetery for a period of thirty days after burial.
ERECTING THE TOMBSTONE
According to tradition, the Tombstone is erected and dedicated preferably towards the end of the first year of interment.
“May the Almighty comfort you among all the mourners of Zion and Jerusalem.”
“The Lord gave, and the Lord hath taken away! Blessed be the name of the Lord”
Job2:10
IN EVERLASTING REMEMBRANCE
The synagogue is our spiritual home and the treasure house from which we draw the inspiration and guidance of our forefathers. As we support its sacred work, we give life to those who preceded us.
Testamentary legacies and endowments can be made to honor the departed by serving the living.
IN MEMORY OF OUR PAST LEADERS
Rebbitzen Sondra Lee Spar
TEMPLE PRESIDENTS
Chauncey Ingram
Dr. Jack Hanover
Dr. Lawrence Karp
Irving Singer
Dr. Kenneth Kronman
Dr. Fred Fischler
Lee W. Phillips
Dr. Marvin Winston
Bernard Kaplan
Donald Berman